Sex and Cerebral Palsy

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As the Beatles once said, “All you need is love. All you need is love, love, love.” Love is so hard to find even if you don’t have any disabilities. It is nearly impossible to find love for young adults or adults with disabilities. If you manage to, you are lucky.

Let’s chat about sex

Let us talk about SEX! Okay, may I ask you this: Do you enjoy sex? Now, let me ask you: Do you think adults with disabilities enjoy sex? To be frank, YES, we sure do! I believe disabled people should have a healthy sex life. They have sexual needs, just like you do. This subject always hits hard. I do enjoy having sex, but no able-bodied man wants to touch me. The few who do are lousy guys only out to use me like a toy. The sad part is that I might never know what “great sex” is. Yet I want to ensure that young, disabled adults and, in fact, all adults with a disability can have a good sexual experience.

Sex workers and people with CP

Prostitution is the world’s oldest profession. Why do we deny the needs of our adult sons and daughters with CP while we turn a blind eye to our husband that sometimes goes out to a strip bar? Really, this is messed up thinking, to me. The last time that I looked, sex falls right under the category of health. We have all kinds of services that address other areas of health, like occupational therapy, physical therapy, and speech therapy.

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Sexual health and healthcare

Did you know that healthcare covers abortions? I find this so shocking. This is wrong on so many levels that I don’t even know where to begin. We are killing young souls that cost 350 to 2,000 dollars instead of letting disabled adults feel the joy of an orgasm? In the Netherlands, they have “sex care”, and they report the following. Studies have shown that people who have sex are usually happy and less frustrated. Every human being needs physical touch and intimacy, whether they are disabled or not. What if healthcare were to cover sex care and not abortion? Why not? Adults with a disability such as autism, cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome, no matter what their mindset is, need sex, just like everyone else. I am not talking about rape here.

My mindset

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To me, sex is just something I see in the movies, on T.V., and in books. It is much the same as Santa Clause. Why not let sex workers work with adults with disabilities, make a connection before having sex, like any therapy?

Go and see the movie The Sessions. It is based on the article On Seeing a Sex Surrogate by Mark O’Brien, a poet paralyzed from the neck down due to polio, who hired a sex surrogate to lose his virginity. This is something I relate to strongly because I did, in fact, hire a sex surrogate to lose my virginity to because I wanted my very first time to be safe. However, I read that a national study reported that 70% of people with disabilities that were surveyed reported that they had been sexually abused. That made me call it off.

I ended up losing it over a fast, one-hour session at Motel 6 to someone I never knew. I view this as one of my many mistakes.

Soulmates but can’t act on it

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At least Romero and Juliette ran off to make love. This story is like Romero and Juliette, but without the death. I once knew a fantastic couple that loved each other. Their names were Jake and Julie. Jake and Julie each had a disability. Each lived at home, still with their parents. They had been together for over ten years and wanted to get married. Jake’s dad was a bible beater that did not want them to get married for some unknown reason. I should mention, both Jake and Julie were over the age of 40. It makes me sad to see my friends playing kindergarten games and such at nights, knowing that we don’t let them explorer the wonders of making love. If sex care was something we practiced here, I bet they would help Jake and Julie be sexual with each other. WHERE IN THE LAW OR THE BIBLE DOES IT SAY THAT PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES CANNOT HAVE SEX?

I want to say THANK YOU SO DEARLY to the APA Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct–their ethics code– that keep me from making love with the man I love and was saving myself for years. That rule still hurts me. It’s like someone kicked me in the heart. I was in love with Elwin and Elwin loved me back. Were we Soulmates? It sure did feel like it. We wanted to spend the night in a 5-star hotel together, making beautiful love. Yet with a heavy heart, I must admit that Elwin and I never made it to our bed of roses. I still live with this pain, and I shall until my ending day. I know if I did make love to the man that I dearly love, then my outlook on sex would be different.

Written by: Amanda Fino


I am worried but I am trying to remain cool, clam, and upbeat. Last Friday was truly my Friday the 13th, since My Graduation Ceremony was call off, shall be on a later date. Seven 7 people has it in my county/ Looking like I has good change of getting it yet, I’m keeping the FAITH and all will be fine in his GRACES. I’m sad to say there was a death in my town. Yet, we are hoping for the best for the rest of the community.

Having nothing to do I hope to be on here more. Until next time, love & light!!!~

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What is Cerebral Palsy?

A note from Amanda Fino: Keep in mind while reading this, I did not write this fantastic blog, yet I’m highly honored to been asked by Richelle & Heaven to copy and paste this onto my blog. Thank You, Richelle & Heaven, for this privilege. Amanda

Richelle & Heaven

What is Cerebral Palsy?
There is an AMAZING Platform known as “Social Media.” Near and far we’re all connected.
Today, wherever you are, we ask that you close your eyes and picture yourselves in a large Auditorium. Are your eyes still closed?
Raise your hands about any of the questions we ask.
How many of you are Differently Abled or know someone that is?
How many of you have ever been subjected to bullying?
How many of you have ever felt alone?
How many of you struggle to tell the truth about your feelings due to being an Outcast?
Now open your eyes and look around. You’re not ALONE.
Today we will speak on the topic of Cerebral Palsy. Have you heard of it?
My name is Richelle Heath & I’m here with Heaven Ramsey. We’re Co-Founders of the #CPDreamTeam. Together, we bring awareness to the most common childhood motor disability. Sadly, it’s not recognized the way we would expect in 2020
There are over 17 Million People Worldwide affected by Cerebral Palsy. That estimates to one in every 323 children. We even have our own awareness ribbon. Our color is green.
Why is green the color of cerebral palsy awareness? Green is associated with new growth, vibrant lives, and renewal of life!
This is because no case of Cerebral Palsy is the same. Each and every one of us are affected differently. This is important because we’re all growing and learning daily, living our vibrant lives in our own, unique individual way. Green symbolizes that for our community of 17 Million Strong.

March is our Month and March 25th is National Cerebral Palsy Awareness Day!
Let’s address some Misconceptions:
First, children with Cerebral Palsy can never learn to walk. This is simply not true. Over half (about 50%-60%) of children with CP can walk independently.
Another misconception is that CP is the same for everyone. There are approximately 17 million people worldwide affected by cerebral palsy and no two are affected the same. There is no certain way a person with CP should look or no certain abilities they should or should not have.
Finally, a child with cerebral palsy has a limited future. Since thousands of children are affected by cerebral palsy, and a new generation of adults are navigating the world of this disability, this has proven not to be the case. There are many who are affected by CP who are very successful. There are doctors, athletes and even entertainers that live with CP and that’s just a few of the professions.
Let me introduce myself…
My name is Richelle Heath. I am 43 and I have spastic diplegia cerebral palsy.
My journey began in 1976 as an adopted child whose parents knew nothing about cerebral palsy. They were told by a fellow church member that I may have CP because my legs weren’t moving in accordance with typical childhood developmental milestones.
After guidance and referrals, I had my first surgery at 2 and my last at 16 years old. My parents gave me every opportunity, regardless of cost and time so that I would have the best chance of walking independently, driving a car, graduating college and working in corporate America. I am proud to say I have accomplished each and every one of those goals. My dream was to be completely independent. The kind of independence that is often taken for granted.

At age 37, I began using Facebook to see if I could find other people with cerebral palsy facing the same daily struggles as I do. I just knew that somewhere out there, others were dealing with similar challenges.
As we age with Cerebral Palsy, life gets harder. Doctors who “Treat Cerebral Palsy” are basically non-existent. You can’t cure CP but what you can do is treat the symptoms.
Physical Therapy, Occupational Therapy, Speech Therapy and a myriad of medications. It is important to remember that no one with CP is the same. Our bodies are all different & will continue to change, along with our abilities.
As you age, disabled or not, your body will continue to break down. That’s life. We ALL need to love ourselves today and every day in the bodies we were given.
March is National Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month and March 25th is National Cerebral Palsy Awareness Day.
We all want to be heard, we want to be accepted. We want to be understood and cherished for our differences and experiences because together everyone achieves more.

Heaven’s Story
My name is Heaven Ramsey. I am 16 years old and I have mild spastic diplegic cerebral palsy. I started my Facebook awareness page “A Stairway To The Stars: Heaven’s Journey With CP” on May 30, 2013. The decision to share my story has changed my life and allowed me to help others.
I made the decision to go back to pageants in 2014, when I realized I cannot encourage others to follow their dreams if I don’t follow my own. I participated in pageants from infancy to age 5 but stopped when an imperfect walk became an issue. Since then I’ve held the titles Little Miss Shining Star 2015, Junior Miss Knox County TN MARS 2017, and Jefferson County Fair’s Fairest of the Fair Miss Beautifully Made 2019.
I also recently achieved my dream of participating in my first fashion show and hope to model more in the future. With all this, I am so proud to be the co-creator of the #CPDreamTeam t-shirts for National and World CP Day each year.
We’ve had 8 successful campaigns with these shirts and are working on the ninth for National CP Day 2020. It has been an honor and a blessing to watch these t-shirts become a centrical part of our campaign for CP awareness.
In conclusion, I hope the take away from my story is that no matter your struggle, you should never let anyone or anything hold you back from reaching for the stars and following your dreams.
Richelle & Heaven

Richelle Heath

Today is the 1st of March!

Happy Day to one and all!!!~ 🌷☕🍀 Lest welcome MARCH 2020!! 🐣🌸🌻🌼🎐 Your new copy CP Gal Reader Nest Newsletter is out and in your in-box just to read with your cup of coffee!!!~ 📰🗞☕…/cp-gal-readers-nest-november-452985

CP Awareness Bash start now,

Being born with a disability ISN’T a crime!

I’m bewildered, loss for words! Yes, I’m very, highly mad, and want to cry my heart out at the same time! Today I learned that a nonverbal 18-year-old man with severe autism is sitting in jail. Once again, a nonverbal man with severe autism is sitting in jail. He is just a helpless baby. 

That’s when my heart went out to him. I just say there with tears in my eyes. All I can think is that that was nearly my fate in April of 2010. Yes, my parents put me into my dad’s truck and my father drove me to the police department because they refused to believe that Scarlett, who was a grandmother to ten grandchildren, had taped me. Okay, getting back to the topic. 

Knowing that a man with autism is now in jail is so damn disturbing to me. He could be raped on his first night in jail. Beaten up.

One must remember we do send all the child a users and killers to jail too. 

I’m sorry to say that this young man’s life is now defective forever and he will never be the same. That’s what broke my heart. 

To me, I had to blame both the mother and the state. First, the mother is to blame for not loving him, if she ever did. Even though she told the news that she doesnt want him in jail either. It wasn’t her choice. If that were true, he would not be in prison I. The first place. To me, I am not 100% sure if I even believe her, knowing that my own mother would lie I. Front of the news camera if I went to jail. 

The mother claims that she can’t have him at home because the state threatened to remove her other kids. It pisses me off at the state more than anything else. They give ultimatums, but they can’t help the people that need them the most. Not to mention, they pay people poorly. You cannot keep the people required to open up the residencies that’s are necessary. It’s like $13 an hour to work at the type of facility this man needs. The power of the state is the real issue. 

A new law in New York City came into light in the new year. It allowed a serial robber to be released with no bail. He immediately robbed another bank. WTH, man? I may be wrong here, but shouldn’t it be this serial robber behind bars and not this autistic man? Lady Justice, where are you?

In 2018 in the state of Virginia, about 2,000 people are living life in an institutions. Some had been there since birth when their parents left them at the hospital without a chance to be adopted. It may be very upsetting to hear, but sadly it’s the truth. Close your eyes, imagine growing up with the adults wearing gloves and hospital scrubs, and not being in a sweet, homey, loving environment. Would you want this to be the place where you had to grow up? While hospital scrubs are required by law to prevent the spread of disease among staff and patients, it leads to distancing the team from the residents, yet the kids are not sick and dying. That sounds like a hellish nightmare of a childhood to me. 

The questions that pops up in my odd mind: Why are parents that want kids going to other countries to adopt kids with a disability and not choosing a baby with a disability in their own backyard?

I have no answer just yet to fix all of this. I’m praying to God to get that child out of jail. I’m praying for all the disabled children to have a loving home. I’m praying for a cure for all people with disabilities. I’m praying that we stop giving free movie tickets and suck to men with a history of violent acts against women, men that are allowed to walk out of jail, free. Society wants to lock up children and adults with a disability such as autism, cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome in institutions. They want these individuals to live like they are insane criminals, killers, with a life sentence. Being born with a disability ISN’T a crime!

It’s February 2020

Take a look at my new newsletter!
My first day of being a lobbying at the heart of Richmond Virginia. Telling my delegates and state Senators that we need to find a cure for cerebral palsy. It’s was a awesome and amazing experience for me.

In hopes of spreading Cerebral Palsy awareness, we are welcoming 31+ authors for takeovers each day, from March 1st to the 31st in Amanda Fino Reader’s Nest. Each day an author will post something about Cerebral Palsy, with giveaways and fun!
The winner is the person who participates the most in the group during the entire month. Have fun, and enjoy it! People with Cerebral Palsy don’t need your sympathies or your hard-earned money. What we are looking for are your VOICE and understanding. To the people that live with Cerebral Pasty, We invite you all to tell each of your fantastic tales about overcoming, living life with CP.